As a newly single person, I decided to download Tinder just to see how it works and to honestly look at people. I'm certainly not ready to get with anyone at the moment but I definitely wanted to check it out.
Amidst the constant horror stories about entitled, aggressive guys who consider a match a date or guaranteed hook-ups and others who end up stalking your social media that's connected to the profile, I was skeptical at making one because there's nothing I want in this world less than hyper-masculine, douche-bag boys in my inbox.
If you're a dude and you're not sure if that applies to you, lets clear that up right now with some guidelines on what not to do on Tinder and if you've done these things, let me just say you owe someone an apology...
If you don't think so then don't wonder why girls don't want to talk to, or continue talking to, you.
Let's get started.
Let me first start by letting you in on a great big well kept secret:
Women don't own you a damn thing.
PASS IT ON.
COMPLIMENTS AND RECANTS
Complimenting a girl as a conversation starter is not necessarily a bad thing. Following that compliment us with a "wanna fuck", "_____", or my personal favorite after not responding, "whatever bitch you're not even cute"is always a bad thing. Complimenting a woman does not warrant you a date, a hook-up, or even a response. If you are so confident, why are you so easily angered by someone not reciprocating your attraction?
NEXT LEVEL... OR NOT
Maybe you've made it passed the preliminary messaging and have moved to snapchat or even texting and you're getting close to meeting up in person. I suggest you make it clear to whomever you speaking to what your intentions are. Everyone uses Tinder for different reasons whether that's for a hookup, friendship, or relationships and while someone people like to "see what happens" they typically go into the situation wanting one thing or another. Figure out what you want and make that clear so that the other person can decide if that's what they want and whether they want to continue in any direction with you. Nothings worse than wanting a hookup and then being stuck with texts and calls from someone you never even thought as someone to date.
SOCIAL MEDIA CONTACTING/STALKING
Maybe you've just seen a super cute girl on Tinder and don't want to wait until you match (if you even do match) so you decide to follow her Instagram or attempt to add her on Facebook. Let me first say it is flattering to be found attractive, everyone loves it and no one act like and say that they don't or don't care. But, if I'm not able to meet that attraction with a thank you and a conversational halt without backlash from some fractured masculinity, then don't even come near me in the first place. No girl likes to be called a "bitch", or a "hoe", just because she didn't tell you you're cute back. SO MORAL, just wait and see if you match because they at least gives you agency to message or get into contact with her in the first place!
Another thing I’ve noticed you all struggle with is sending message after message after message when you don’t get a response. Let me tell you something: if you send someone a message (especially on a dating app) and they never reply it’s cause they absolutely DO NOT want to talk to you. Do not, do not, do not send another message! It’s not only annoying but it makes you look desperate and needy to say the least. No response on the first one? What makes you think you’re gonna get a response on the second or third? Or fourth?????
These are just some of the very many things that unattractive women from boys so if you are or know someone who behaves like this please please please tell them it sucks.
Really, girls sit around and talk/laugh about you types and so see this as me looking out for you!
You can be sure of yourself without demeaning others.
You can make it clear that you're hurt without being rude.
But if you're hurt from being rejected by someone you don't even know then good luck, Charlie.
Ladies, comment your worst tinder experiences below!
Any more rules and regulations you think guys need to be aware of? Comment below!!! Let them know!!!
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